There are clear roles defined for men and women in the marriage relationship. God seems to want Men and Women to have differing roles. But why? I have always been taught in school that the differences between men and women are just physiological. Boys have penises and girls have vaginae. All other differences are purely social pressure. Girls are supposed to play with dolls and ez bake ovens to make them domesticated damsels in distress while boys are to run around with light sabers to be knights in shinning armor.
However, the Bible takes a different view. When reading I Timothy chapter 2, you get a good look at Biblical gender roles.
1Ti 2:11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
1Ti 2:12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
1Ti 2:13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
1Ti 2:14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
Sound harsh? It should, most of society has been culturally conditioned to responded negatively to gender roles. People think that this makes women less in terms of capability, value, and equality and that is unacceptable in an enlightened society.
However, the problem here is equating role with value. God is very clear in "Gal 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus." And Galatians and 1 Timothy were written by the same guy. So God values everyone the same but we all play different roles in life.
But what if a woman wants to lead the home? What if she is better equipped than the man? These are valid points but have nothing to do with the root issue. It is an issue of what God wants not what we want.